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You Are What You Choose

You Are What You Choose

Choices…  We have them, we make them, we live by them,
we die by them. The right one can have as impactful a consequence as a bad one.
Needless to say, the ability to make the best one at the right time can determine
success or ensure failure.

Every day,
as I see my two children leave for school or some other activity, my admonition
to them is not the typical “be good.” No… I tell them, “Make
good choices.” Why? Because what happens (or doesn’t happen) to them
around that activity is solely dependent on the consequences of the choices
they make (or don’t make). 

We alone
have sole ownership over our choices. In an era when people are wont to not
take responsibility or accountability for their actions (choices of actions,
that is), it’s important to get back to that very critical basic. We are a
product of our choices. In any situation you ALWAYS have a choice. Think about
it… The anticipated or calculated consequences of whatever choice you make
certainly determine your choice. That’s what decision-making is all about.
That’s also what separates those deemed successful from those who aren’t. It
also separates those who are happy from those who aren’t.
That is
the one common factor that can be ascribed to the happy and the successful:
they realize and have control and ownership over their choices and they realize
that they aren’t responsible for the choices of others. Confronted by adversity
or something bad? Choose your actions and behavior. Triumphant and in a state
where all is going your way? Choose your behavior. The results either way then
serve to define you.

One of my
old Pfizer Regional Managers, Mike Kraft, told me at a time when I had to
terminate a pharmaceutical representative in my District that, “whatever
choices people make, you’ve got to understand that their intentions were
good.” How true is that?  It was
just that, in that case, the drug rep made the wrong choice. There’s we get
into the art of decision-making (a future topic for discussion here, I’m sure),
that is, the suitability of the choice made for the time and situation in which
it was made.

The
empowering thought here is that, whatever happens, whatever is done to or for
you…whatever happens, you alone choose your action, reaction, response, and behavior.
Whet happens subsequent to that, then, is the consequence. As the saying goes,
“If it is to be, then it is up to me.” Get me?

So, as you
go about your day, be cognizant of all that goes on. Take note of all the
various and sundry choices, implicit and obvious, that are required. Then note
the results – the consequences of those choices. Take that, and take control of
your life.
After all,
you ARE what you choose.
That’s the
point!

   – Tony


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